Here are templates for different boundary scenarios:

• Setting Initial Boundaries: “I’ve noticed _______ (observation). When this happens, I feel _______ (feeling). I need _______ (need). Would you be willing to _______ (request)?”

• Time Boundaries: “I’m available for _______ between the hours of _______ and _______. Outside those hours, _______.”

• Emotional Boundaries: “I care about your situation, but I don’t have the capacity to _______ right now. What I can offer is _______.”

• Digital Boundaries: “To maintain my focus and wellbeing, I check messages/emails _______ times per day. For urgent matters, _______.”

• Reinforcing Boundaries: “We discussed _______ previously. I want to remind you that I need _______.”

• Addressing Violations: “We agreed that _______. That hasn’t been happening, and it’s affecting me by _______. I need us to revisit our agreement about _______.”